To be or not to be, that is the question:
Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer
the slings and arrow of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles and in opposing, end them.
~ Hamlet, in William Shakespeare’s Hamlet
Generally we don’t like to talk about the struggle it is for men to be men in our culture. It makes men feel insecure and women, nervous. Most men in our culture don’t want to admit that, for the most part, we’re all just trying to get it done; in our jobs, our family life, or in whatever interior life we have. The end result is that many men hide themselves from each other, robbing their family, friends, and businesses of the talents that they possess. They end up living lives of quiet desperation.
I created this website to help men take up arms against a sea of troubles. My hope is that it will stimulate dialogue and help men (and women also) understand the things that make us all brothers on the journey. In dialoguing about the reality of life, we may break down the barriers that leave many men feeling lonely, unfulfilled, and unhappy with life. I hope that in dialoguing with people about the masculine journey, men can find strength and creativity they need to face the ‘slings and arrows’ of life.
In my own life, before I met my own band of brothers, I thought the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” were simply my own in-competencies (though some of them were). I thought that I just didn’t get it, that, if I just worked harder, applied myself more to the problem, I’d find success in life. However, in sharing with men the trials and tribulations of life, I came to understand that most men share the same fundamental struggles in life. We all struggle with work, relationships, and our own feelings and emotions.
More than that, I discovered that there is something truly transformative when men come together in an atmosphere of respect and brotherhood to share themselves with each other. It is highly reminiscent of the honesty and the joy of life of being a boy (at least my boyhood), and it is highly satisfying and, dare I say, natural.
This website, my presentations and workshops are invitations for men and women to recognize that we all struggle in life – in fact, it’s the norm. However, in admitting the struggle to be real we find room to be who we really are, faulted and, sometimes broken, yet somehow great and glorious too. This is the journey of life, the deep call of every man’s heart to live a full life. It is the masculine journey and it cannot be done alone.
We all need help along the way, both men and women. Our world needs men to understand that when men are at their best, we all can find the strength, the courage and the creativity to take up arms against a sea of troubles.
The Masculine Journey is to be a source of encouragement, dialogue, and creativity for the journey that is life.